We Ask ‘Why?’

Our philosophy is to focus on the underlying and core issues undermining recovery, namely shame and trauma. We do not believe that “punishment-based” or “behavioral modification” models can, over the long-term, lead to effective recovery.

We work with individuals to establish radical honesty and transparency, to nurture self love, and to develop an internal moral compass in an environment that is both uplifting and nonjudgemental.

The Lighthouse Recovery Philosophy

The Lighthouse Recovery philosophy centers on the question, “Why?” You must know the root causes of your addiction. Finding these root causes makes Lighthouse Recovery’s sober living program successful in helping you achieve long-term recovery. Whether it is your first attempt at sobriety or your tenth, knowing your own answers to “why” helps you find your own sustainable recovery.

Lighthouse Recovery builds on a foundation of love and support for people not yet able to fully love themselves. You deal with many after-effects of your addiction, such as shame and trauma. For recovery, you need healing of these core issues. As part of the Lighthouse Recovery philosophy, we help you and your loved ones regain life and freedom.

man staring out“Those suffering from addiction are in real need of understanding and empathy, as are their families. Through the sharing of our light and love with them, and it in turn that compassion being passed onto others, we have the ability to affect real change in the world around us. To help nurture and build ‘self-love’ is a truly transformative and rewarding experience.”

Co-Founder and Program Director,
Michael Jones

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Transparency

Lasting recovery is not merely the ability to stop using substances, but a process that requires real change, starting with an intensive and often uncomfortable confrontation with reality. Our staff works with residents and families to develop radical honesty and transparency, by which the core issues of one’s addiction are brought to light and the healing process can truly begin.

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Community

It is near impossible to develop lasting recovery alone, in fact, we’ve never seen it accomplished in the many, many years of having worked in the Industry. Everyone needs support along the way. Our sober living community-based model emphasizes peer support amongst residents in addition to holistic oversight and guidance from all staff members.

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Individualized

Each individual’s circumstance is entirely unique, and the reasons and drivers behind the addiction are as well. From the beginning, our sober living philosophy was to build an environment in which we could work on a customizable basis with each resident and each family. This dramatically increases the resident’s personal ownership of their recovery process.

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Communication

Addicts often work to “split” communication between the various parties helping them in their recovery, i.e. parents, siblings, extended family, primary therapist, primary care center, etc. We believe communication, and more specifically, unified communication, plays a tremendous role in the efficacy and success of the Lighthouse Recovery program.

“As someone who has been in recovery for eight years and has spent three of those years in other Sober Living programs, I can attest from experience that the program offered at Lighthouse affords the best possible care for those who choose to accept their help. Great place and great people.”

Michael C.

“I stayed at Lighthouse for about five months after I got out of Inpatient Treatment. The staff is amazing, the houses are extremely nice, and the community is proactive. Lighthouse showed me how to live life as a sober man. I would not be where I am today without this amazing place. A huge thanks to the staff for getting me back on my feet!”

William C.

Transformation

We work with residents through the journey from self-loathing and shame to self-love and empathy. Residents begin to realize they can be open, honest, and transparent with themselves and others. Moreover, that they have to be. We don’t shame residents into cooperating, vindictively punish, or make blanketed assumptions. Our sober living philosophy dramatically increases the resident’s willingness and active participation in their own recovery.

Nearly any study on Addiction Treatment will promote the benefits of long-term, transitional care. It is during this period that the education and information received during Primary Treatment can actually be put to use. We operate with a minimum 90-day commitment, but it is often difficult to predict when a resident will be fully suitable to Graduate. The average length of stay for Graduates is about six (6) months.

Prior to Graduation, a Lighthouse Recovery resident is:

  • aware of and consistently working on their core issues
  • substance-free
  • working and/or going to school
  • managing their own finances
  • helping and sponsoring other people through recovery
  • building, strengthening, and maintaining relationships
  • balancing the four components of work/school, recovery, fun, and love
  • redefining their role within the family system
  • respecting and setting boundaries
  • reaching out to others with concern and compassion
  • honest and forthcoming when it’s not in their immediate interest to do so
  • passionate, engaged, and present in life

It is both our mission and passion to positively transform the lives of those suffering from Addiction. We are honored and grateful to work with clients and their families to create lasting and impactful change.

Common Behaviors

“Failure to Launch”

The stage between adolesence and adulthood demands a series of increasingly complex, difficult, and trying milestones. Too often, we see individuals who are incapable of taking the neccessary actions to sieze control and onwership of their lives. Often, these persons are fearful of their own ability to succeed and are confused as to the correct path to take.

At Lighthouse, lasting recovery is about so much more than removing substances from one’s life. It’s about discovering passion, purpose, and true freedom. We build resilience and the needed motivation to successfuly help individuals take on the world. And our staff and community are always there to help once a resident graduates in times of trials and hardship.

“Self-Sabotaging”

Self-sabotaging behavior is a common trait amongst new Lighthouse residents. Individuals feel subconciously unworthy of success and would rather “control” the situation by destroying it. This self-reinforcing cycle can become strangely second nature when individuals habitually act as their “own worst enemy.”

We approach self-sabotaging individuals through a positive-reinforcement loop focused on removing critical internal negativity and working towards the development of a set of personal values. Furthermore, we practice becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable emotions, rather than simply running away from the problem.

“Playing the Victim”

We often encounter individuals incapable of taking responsbility for their actions, the handling of life’s consequences, and the need to leverage sympathy to obtain desired outcomes. They just don’t think life is being “fair.” In reality, the individual is overwhelmed, angry, feels helpless, and is self-degrading, compounding a sense of deep shame and loss of self-worth.

Our philosophy is to bring clarity, communication, introspection, and to help start developing personal accountability and self-love. We’ll work to redefinine the individual’s role away from being the “one always in need” to the one that is always looking to help others.

“Living In the Extremes”

Addicts are wired to live in the extremes. The massive highs and cratering lows. It’s always “all or nothing.” Complete chaos or faltering attempts at controlling everything. They’re constantly in conflict, oscillating between opposing emotions, opinions, or beliefs.

At Lighthouse, we promote a healthy balance between work, recovery, fun, and love. No individual life is ever perfectly balanced, but through the careful nuturing of each of these components, indiviudals are able to achieve a sustainable harmony and experience life as a “journey,” not something that happens in one giant step.